February 27, 2014 Baby Jaxon’s Arrival

IMG_0649It was a Thursday evening, just as I had plopped in front of the TV, when I got the call.  I heard the phone ring, and I knew instantly it was Kelly calling to tell me she was in labor.  Sure enough, it was her calling, and she told me that she had started having contractions.  They were only every 15 minutes, so I told her to try her best and get some sleep, and that I would do the same.  I think we both knew that we would soon be up.  At 4 AM the phone rang.  It was time!  I flew over to her house and was there by 4:25.  At this point, mama was contracting about every 6 minutes.  We talked and laughed and ate a snack.  We got big brother up and dressed, so he could go with his grandpa.   I snapped a few pictures of Kelly and her son, knowing that these were his final moments as an only child.   After Bryson left, things started to pick up a bit.  Kelly was contracting about every 5 minutes now.  We decided that the three of us (Kelly, her husband Mark, and myself) would go walking at Walmart.  Seeing as how it was 6 AM and freezing cold, there weren’t many other options.  On the way to Walmart, I decided to grab some coffee at Starbucks.  By the time we got in line, Kelly’s contractions started coming every 3-4 minutes.  We decided to go ahead to the hospital just in case!

At 7:30ish we arrived at the hospital.  They took us back to a room and checked Kelly.  She was 4 cm 90% effaced.   At this point Kelly was still contracting but they seemed to have slowed just a bit.  After all of the paper work and monitoring was finished, we started to walk.  Her contractions picked up right where they had left off.  I could tell that they were definitely more intense.  She leaned into her husband with each contraction and rocked back and forth with him.  It was so sweet, I couldn’t help but take a few pictures of that special moment.  After walking a few laps, Kelly was really feeling her contractions.  She wanted to go back to the room 20140227_094751-1and change positions.  We opted for leaning over the back of the bed on her knees.  She felt good like that for a while.  Kelly was contracting every 2 minutes at this point.  By 10:00 am she was starting to make some noise so we got her into the tub.  Have I mentioned how much I adore tubs for laboring?  Ahhh such relief ( for a little while anyway).  I could see the fear and exhaustion start to creep in.  Kelly decided to get out of the tub and get checked again around 11 am.  She was 5-6 cm..yay for progress!!  After some prayer and discussion, we thought it might be best to go ahead and break her water.  We knew that once Jaxon’s head was sitting on her cervix without a bag of waters in the way, she would dilate more quickly.

The midwife came in and broke her water at about noon.  At this point Kelly was in full blown transition.  She was struggling to stay on top of the pain.  If her husband got out of sight for a split second, she would panic.  “Where’s Mark?!?”, she would scream.  Every contraction was brutal and pushed her to her limit.  She was no longer blowing away the pain, she was yelling it away as loud as she could.  The midwife even popped her head in at this point to make sure she was ok.  She decided to check her and see if it was time to push yet.  Kelly was now 7 cm but had plenty of cervix left.  The nurse and I hatched a plan to get Mr. Jaxon out and in his mommy’s arms.  It was very important that Kelly get out of bed and change positions so that the baby could rotate and make his way down.  The nurse and I had our work cut out for us because Kelly had officially h20140227_093107-1it her wall.  She refused to move.  She screamed and cried that she couldn’t and wouldn’t move.  We watched as each contraction overcame her.  She was now begging for relief.  Finally, I knelt down beside her and told her , “Kelly , whether you get an epidural or not YOU ARE GETTING OUT OF THIS BED!”  With that,  Mark helped her out of the bed and got her back into the tub.  She was on her knees in the tub rocking all around in circles and doing some awesome breathing.  She was finally in her zone and telling us all to be quiet!  Mark held  her sweetly and told her he loved her and how strong she was.  After 3 or 4 contractions she was over it, and wanted back in the bed.  The nurse checked her again to see if changing positions helped, and sure enough she was 9 cm! Hallelujah!  I kept reassuring her that this was almost over.  Very soon she would be holding her sweet baby boy.  Pain with a purpose!  Not long after she was back in the bed, the baby started descending.  The midwife ran in and was yelling at her to wait until she got her gloves on.  Just as she got the gloves on, the baby started crowning.  For the previous 2 hours Kelly screamed her lungs out.  And as soon as she started pushing she was silent.  I love this part of childbirth.  That moment when you start to push and you know it’s almost over.  There is such relief in that moment, and I could see it on Kelly’s face.  She only pushed one time and Jaxon was out!  Welcome to the world sweet baby boy.  You’re mommy did it!  She did what she never believed she could do.  There you were, the two of you, in such sweet bliss.  All of the pain was gone in an instant.  Daddy was overcome with emotion as he saw his beautiful boy come into this world.  I was elated, to say the least!  Jaxon Cooper was born at 1:43pm 9 lbs 2 oz 20 inches long.  I am honored to have been a part of that life changing moment.  Oh sweet Jaxon, your birth changed your mommy forever.   Today she knows she is a strong and capable woman, all because of you!

Thank you Kelly for allowing me to be your doula.  I will treasure this moment forever and ever.  I have watched you transform.  You went from sorta kinda wanting a natural childbirth and being really uncertain of yourself, to being a confident natural childbirth advocate.  I couldn’t be more proud of you!! God bless you and your sweet family xoxo 🙂 🙂







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Fat is GOOD!

good-fats-vs-bad-fatsIf you are anything like me, I thought I was “healthy” because I was drinking skim milk and eating low-fat foods.  Boy was I surprised when I found out exactly the opposite was true!  You see, we have been tricked into believing that all fat is bad, and makes us gain weight.  In reality, it is the refined sugars, carbohydrates, and BAD fats, that we are pumped full of daily, that are making us fat and unhealthy. We are lacking GOOD healthy fats in our diet.  Another lie we’ve been told, is that cholesterol is bad.  The funny thing is, on a cellular level, we are made of cholesterol.  A large part of our brain is made of cholesterol as well.  If we don’t have cholesterol we perish!  No randomized research study has ever been able to link a low-fat diet and lower cholesterol to a lower risk of coronary heart disease.  According to published research:

–  More people have heart attacks with normal cholesterol than with elevated cholesterol.

–  There is a higher death rate among people with low cholesterol than with high cholesterol. (Wannamethee, et al, British Medical Journal, et al.)

During the past two generations of North Americans living the low-fat lifestyle, mortality rates from coronary heart disease, cancer, and diabetes have actually been rising. (Ford, et al, Coronary Heart Disease Mortality Among Young Adults in the U.S. From 1980 Through 2002: Concealed Leveling of Mortality Rates, et al.)

 The truth is, not all fats are bad.  In fact, some are very beneficial.

healthy-fatsHealthy Fats – provide your body with the nutrients it needs to build cell membranes, absorb vitamins, cushion vital organs, protect you from extreme temperatures, build hormones, lower inflammation, and make up 70 percent of your brain tissue. Source (Hardick, Roberto, Lerner, The Solution To The Dangers Of Modern Nutrition)

Healthy Fats include olive oil, avocados, nuts, seeds, coconuts, and the fats that come from naturally-raised animals, including wild fish, grass-fed beef, organic chicken,  raw full-fat milk, and pastured eggs.

bad fatsDamaged Fats (Bad Fats) are fats that are altered in the process of extracting them from their sources, as they are assimilated in your body, or during the manufacturing process, as in the case of hydrogenated oils (trans fats).   Damaged fats have no place in your diet.  Since your body cannot recognize or metabolize these fats, they naturally contribute to weight gain by clinging to cell membranes and preventing cellular detoxification.  Beyond the concern of weight loss, these damaged fats also adhere to arterial walls, cause inflammation and damage, and contribute to heart attacks and stroke.  The natural rise in cholesterol, in response to the damage caused by such fat, is the body’s attempt to heal itself.  Unfortunately, we’ve been led to believe that taking medications to forcefully lower the number of “healing agents” in the body will address the true cause of the problem-when clearly, it won’t. Source (Hardick, Roberto, Lerner, The Solution To The Dangers Of Modern Nutrition)

Damaged Fats (Bad Fats) include trans fats (hydrogenated oils), vegetable oil, canola oil, margarine, commercial meat.

Fat doesn’t make you fat. It is the inability to burn fat that makes you fat. In fact, your body needs fat to burn fat.  So if you are on a low-fat diet, your body is most likely burning sugar instead of fat.  Unfortunately, the body only uses a little bit of sugar for energy, and it stores what it doesn’t use as fat.  It’s a vicious cycle!

To summarize……  Bad fats are BAD, and good fats are GOOD.  Eat healthy fats and get skinny!  Eat damaged fats and get fat!  Whew!  That’s some crazy stuff isn’t it???  I was completely mind blown when first learning all of this.  I will say, since implementing this into my daily diet, I have lost 12 pounds. Not to mention the health benefits that come along with it.  I definitely have more energy and feel good again!

If you would like to learn more, or are interested in truly getting well (not just putting a band aid on your health problems), visit Maximized Living to find a doctor nearest you!


The Incredible Edible Placenta….Say What?!?

placenta pillsTo some of you this may come as a shock.  YES…you can ingest your placenta and benefit from it greatly!  I ingested my placenta with my last two babies.  I did encapsulation with one, and raw placenta smoothies with the other *gasp*.  Honestly, it was the best decision I ever made!  I had postpartum depression after the birth of my first child.  When I became pregnant with my second, I made it my mission to do everything possible to prevent that from happening again.  One of the BEST ways to prevent postpartum depression is by taking placenta pills right after you give birth.  Most people believe that the fatigue they experience after having a baby comes from waking up all night.  On the contrary, it is because they are experiencing a huge hormonal crash from the placenta being taken away abruptly (remember, your placenta holds all of the hormones and nutrients that sustain your baby’s life for 9+ months).  It makes perfect sense to put those same hormones back into your body, a little at a time, so that you can stay balanced.  I’m telling you, it makes a huge difference people!  Here are few good reasons why you should encapsulate your plancenta:

What if you could avoid the baby blues…
The placenta contains your own natural hormones and is perfectly made for you, by you. Experts agree that the placenta retains hormones. Reintroducing them to your system is believed to ease postpartum and menopausal hormonal fluctuations.

Why should I take placenta capsules?
Your baby’s placenta, contained in capsule form, is believed to:

contain your own natural hormones
  be perfectly made for you
balance your system
replenish depleted iron
give you more energy
lessen bleeding postnatally
been shown to increase milk production
help you have a happier postpartum period
hasten return of uterus to pre-pregnancy state
be helpful during menopause   Source (placentabenefits.info)

 Bearing Blessings offers Placenta Encapsulation services!  If you would like me to encapsulate your placenta, or if you have any questions, please feel free to contact me 🙂